In some cases, these wild lows and highs can be a sign of something more serious than black and white thinking, like abuse, for which you deserve support. This cycle of love/hate, down/up, good/bad can be seriously stressful for any relationship. Your partner is the most wonderful person in the world - until they’re the worst.
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Black and white thinking can negatively impact your relationships Ways Black and White Thinking is Holding Your Backĭoes this line of thinking sound like yours? If it does, here are some ways black and white thinking may be holding you back - and why it’s worth embracing life’s shades of grey. And on a deep level, simplifying things into easy, binary terms robs us of much of the complexity that makes life and relationships so rich. But this kind of thinking can be exhausting, sending us through constant ups and downs. By seeing the world in black and white - rather than the complex rainbow it actually is - we may initially make it easier for ourselves to separate out good from bad, right from wrong, and beautiful from ugly.
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Of course, the world is not an either/or place: Our lives are full of shades of gray. In everyday settings, it can simply hold us back from experiencing some of the richness of our lives and relationships. The official psychological term for black and white thinking is “splitting.” At its extremes, splitting can be a symptom of mental illness like Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). From refusing to see the flaws in our loved ones, to being overly hard on ourselves, the human brain’s tendency to understand the world in either/or terms has a profound effect on our relationships.
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We all think of the world in black and white terms at times. My boyfriend is the most attractive person I know and I’ll never be as into anyone else again. My sister is so beautiful and I’m so ugly.